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First Date Dos and Don't: Ladies edition

Have you ever been on a BAD DATE? Can you recall what went wrong? Or have you been on a date and Midway or after the date, you tell yourself  I'm never seeing this person again?..
well i need not get the answers from you because I know for a fact that majority have.

I ran a personal survey and the results showed that most bad dates are usually the first dates and that goes to say many people don't create the best impression on the first date. 

Creating the best impressions on a first date is so important for both parties because it takes two to tango, if one party ruins the date the possibilities of a second date is very slim.  

In this article I'll be focusing on things a lady shouldn't do on a first date. Most times ladies tend to do the complaining without knowing they also fault in these situations. 

The following are the dos and don't of a lady on a first date.

1. Don't go late

This is a bit controversial but the truth must be said. Going late for a first date or any date IS WRONG. There is a difference in going fashionably late, don't get me wrong here. Going fashionably late should be between 10-30mins late, but when it extends to 1hr and above then girl that is wrong.
     A lot of men will read this as you not having regard for time and also lousy . Time is money, time is of essence and someone not having regard for time is a very questionable life choice. Showing up timely for a date tells you are very particular about things, a well mannered adult, it presumes you as being a high value lady which is by far the most important impression to give to a man.  

2. Taking an uninvited friend/person on the date

I know i know there is going to be a little disagreement on this point but before you disagree I need you to read through this point first.
   When you're asked out on a date and you feel the need to let a friend or two tag along maybe you don't feel safe enough to go out alone with your said date (I really don't support anyone going out with anyone if they don't feel safe to or they have an unpleasant gut feeling) or for some reasons you alone can justify, courtesy demands you inform the other person (your date) prior the Date. 

Unless it's a double date or your date agrees then it's fine, aside that, showing up with someone uninvited to a date that you were only asked on just makes you appear ill-mannered.

3. Splitting bills.

I've had a lot of people debate about this and i wonder why so much dust is raised for a very simple fact, A LADY SHOULDN'T SPLIT THE BILL WITH A GUY ON THE FIRST DATE!!! . A gentleman wouldn't ask a lady to split the bill with him on a date, now there's a difference when he's your friend or colleague or you two have a very homely relationship then It's understandable. This doesn't mean you should go about ordering and buying stuffs on the date that in reality you can't afford, that shows you're greedy and it doesn't tell good of you. Also don't offer to split the bills and even if he does, politely decline or accept if you wish to help.
And this brings us to the next point

4. Making over the top purchases or Orders

You should be aware that you are on a Date and the gentleman who is your date is somehow in charge of everything and you shouldn't leverage the opportunity to be extra. Even if your date is wealthy and capable, purchasing items,ordering or requesting for services that aren't necessary or are over the top just writes you off as a greed, which is a very bad impression any lady should give off especially on a first date. 
For me I say order for things you can pay for but you can be a little bougie but not excessively, remember you're trying to create a good impression.

5. Converse smartly 

On dates especially the first ones conversations are key. With a smart conversation you can get to know your date and also not scare them away.
  The famous  "where do you see yourself in five years"  question is really not necessary. There are better and less intense questions you can ask and those questions birth good conversations. 
Show interest by asking your date some things about their life, don't ask too personal question(remember it's a first date and not an interview),be attentive, find a common interest you two have and dwell more on it. Pay less attention to your phone and more attention to the date.

6. Dress the part 

The way you look is an impression on its own. Dress accordingly, don't dress for a dinner date when you're infact going on a balling alley date. Get to know your date spot or location so you don't go under dressed or over dressed to your date. Dress good,smell good and show up good.



As a high value lady, nothing makes you more attractive than when you create good impressions. Be mannered be feminine be a lady and of all things be real. Not all first dates would go well even if you did all these but for the most part you left a good impression and that should make you content at least.

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