breaking up with someone you loved and cared about can be very difficult physically and mentally. And as woke as the internet and its users claim to be, some parts of this phase don’t get talked about enough. There is more to it than meets the eye. When breakups occur, it’s more than two people no longer being in a relationship, it’s a change of routines, a change of wants and sometimes needs, and a change in habits. It’s a lot! So let’s talk about those aspects of this process that are normally kept under wraps.  1. The “what ifs” phase:  Just like the name goes “what if” is the point you begin to ask yourself questions and seek answers, you think of where you would have done better or worst, and you begin to find answers, these might be in form of the closure conversation you have with your partner or the questions you begin to ask friends. 2. Reminder phase:  This is the phase where you are constantly reminded of them. I don’t know if it’s just me, but when I mi...

 We all have at one point in our lives altered a decision or done something out of the opinions of others. Not saying considering others' opinions is bad, in fact, in most cases, it is very advisable but in cases where those opinions become detrimental to you, your decisions, and your life choices, then it becomes a problem.  A friend of mine was brainwashed into studying a particular course at the university hence directing him to a different career path from the one he would so much love to head. He did well in school and excelled in that discipline but he was still very much unhappy with what he was doing, long story cut short he took the bull by the horn and changed his discipline during his master’s studies which weren't rosy but the outcome was worth the stress. Just like this my friend many people have been through comparable circumstances. You can get back your stand and do whatever you know is best for you and whatever you want to do. And this is how you can go about ...