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6 Red flags a lady shouldn't ignore in the dating phase


Have you ever had a bad relationship and when you reminisce on that relationship time frame you get to notice some really odd things that you let slide?
Everyone has been there, even if it's not a romantic relationship it could be friendship or even family and you think to yourself why did I ever for the life of me let those slide!!?

I believe it is easier to overlook things when you're in a relationship than when you're getting acquainted to someone, reason being that in a relationship you are somewhat attached to that person or to the people in general unlike casual acquaintances where you're getting to know the person and find out if they're good for what you want.

 ladies tend to be the overlookers because they're are wired to be very emotional and many times this emotional build clouds our judgement. That's why I'm of the opinion that a woman should have very high emotional intelligence and control. When it comes to dating ladies usually go for what is presented to them in front and it could be looks, charms charisma, wealth, conversations etc yes these should be considered too I mean who wouldn't want her man to be all that? But besides the obvious, there are a few red flags that a lady should look out for during the dating or talking stage and by any means necessary try not to overlook them.

Inconsistent Man

This is the first on this list because nothing screams "I'm not ready" "you're not all that" louder than an inconsistent Man. The type that would make you feel like a princess today and ghost you for a while then pop up again. *sighs* This is very stressful to say the least, because it makes you go through that mind marathon of  DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG? and that is one messed up head space to be in. 

I just go for if you're trying to get me and you can't be consistent, then when you eventually do you won't be consistent. It's that simple no matter how emotionless or busy a man is, if he wants something he'll go for it relentlessly. And that should be a PASS!! No lady deserves inconsistency.

An indecisive Man

Indecisive in this term don't refer to the indecisive phase we go through when we don't know what to wear on a girls night out or not being able to pick between two hairstyles or even not knowing what to order from the menu. No, the indecisive Man in this case is a man who really can't make a decision for himself.

This man is a crowd and friend pleaser, the one who peer pressure still has a chokehold on him. It's one thing to want to seek other people's opinions on matters and see things from another perspective but it is entirely something else when you can't function without listening to other people's opinions. He can't say No! He can't believe his guts, he always does things to appear cool for his boys, he doesn't have a mind of his own.
This is definitely a red flag to look out for and run from. If that man has two personalities, when he is with you he's all sweet and nice but when he is with his friends he seems like a whole different person, then let that man go. He needs to grow up.

Aggressive Man

The thing with this kind of men is they don't show you this to your face and here's the tricky part because you'll have to find out from his interactions with others.
The way he talks and act when people offend him, his actions towards people who really can't do anything for him etc you can also engage in some conversations to get this part of him if there is, a lot can be learnt through conversations.

A kind and gently man is as precious as gold because if you can be kind and gentle while dealing with others, you can also be kind and gentle towards me and vice versa. Statistics shows that a good number of men that fall in this category of aggressive are usually abusers and manipulators. 

Stingy Men

This particular point is very serious. It's not about having a rich man but it's about having a generous Man. A generous man is a giver, he doesn't have to be so rich but he gives, he provides and if your date is the complete opposite of a generous man, I think and I know you should throw the whole man away and run

A man who doesn't make moves

A Man should be an instigator. I don't have to tell you to take me on a date, I don't have to tell you to do little acts of service for me, I don't have to remind you to communicate and be in touch, I don't have to remind you to keep to time and not keep me standing.

There's just something too attractive about men when they make moves. When a man is told everything it goes to show how uninterested he really is and that speaks volume.


The free wheel guy

This type of men don't have goals nor plans they are typical on " vibes, cruise and shayo" this is an unserious Man. They are usually in their early 20s, I'm not saying all early 20s men are free wheel guys, there are still very mature and goal oriented men in their 20s and also a bunch of free wheel guys in their 30s so it's an individual trait not group.

A free wheel guy doesn't want anything serious, he is in for just good times, they don't have any laid down plan, they just have wishes and no plan to implement any of the goals or wishes per say. They're usually very sweet and charming but as a lady that has values, time wasters shouldn't be tolerated but if you do these kind of men then do you sis all that matters is you and your wants after all.





There are other things to look out for during the dating phase too but these are my core 6.
I know the dating world is saturated but if you as a lady can do away with the scarcity mindset and believe you can find your standard in a man then you definitely can. Overlooking most of these red flags will always cost you sooner or later so do what works for you and don't compromise.


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