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How powerful is "I LOVE YOU"

 This piece is one of my favorite because I'm sharing everything from my POV and it's very personal and precious. 

Have you ever jokingly told someone I LOVE YOU? Did it come out freely or strangely? How was the receiver's reaction like? You can drop your answers in the comments section, I would love to read them. I LOVE YOU is a hard word for me to say because I feel it's too deep to be misused, I feel it amounts to so much more than just a mere statement but the irony is as much as it's a hard word for me to say(randomly) I tend to say it too often when I mean it.

So I came across this page on Facebook called JUBILEE and I went through their videos which I recommend because they deal on diverse topics, hard conversations and false narratives which gets shoved under the carpet and also have a make believe ideology to it. In my course of going through their videos, I came across a video where random people where told to call their sibling or friend or family member and tell them "I love you". I don't know but I there was something I felt while watching that particular video and I'm sure the persons who partook in the video felt it too because most of them ended up tearing up and one lady said "I never knew how much impact hearing these words from the right people could have". 

After seeing that video I told myself I was going to do it and get reactions, little did I know that it was going to one of the most emotional things I'll ever experience. 

So I hopped on the challenge *ring ring* my cousin picked up with her usual "Ami,howfa na" and without hesitation I told her "Ng I just called to tell you I love you so much and I'm thankful for you" there was this awkward silence before she said "idikwa ok?[are you alright/fine?] And I replied yes I'm fine, I could sense the worry and surprise in her silence then she said I love you too but if you want to talk about it I'm here,and this is strange ooo but it feels nice hearing it from you shaa" and I laughed and ended the call because I didn't want any other conversation to get in the mix and so I don't end up telling  her why I called. 

Now after that call, I was feeling some type of way, but I was determined to finish this task, So I ended up calling my younger brothers,my best friend, and two other friends. And all of them had similar response,they all thought something was wrong! Some thought I was about going MIA, and one of them even asked for my location because he felt I wanted to do something detrimental or I was in a peril situation, all of them felt and knew it was strange and not typical of me to say that to them and this had me thinking "WHY DON'T WE TELL THOSE THAT MATTER HOW MUCH THEY MATTER" I went to bed that day in my feelings.

You know how frequent you tell your boyfriend and girlfriend you love them how freely you tell people you love them on their birthdays even when you don't,why don't, we tell the people that we actually love that we love them! Imagine calling your mum and telling her you love her, she won't forget that, these people I called won't forget it either that call will somehow live rent free in their heads for a while. Be open with expression of feelings, the same way you frown when you see someone you don't like should be the same way you tell those you like/love how much you love/like them. Life's too short to not express how you feel and tell those that matter that they matter when they're still here.

That your friend, that your crush, that neighbor, your siblings, your family member's time here isn't promised neither is yours, don't wait until you're writing a tribute or birthday wish to tell them how you feel. Use this article as a sign to express your feelings more, you're never weak for expressing how you feel🖤  

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